Wow...That is a mouthful and one of the hardest things that I have been challenged with doing. Who among our community hasn't fallen victim to what other people have said. This is how the process starts. Somewhere we are given the message that others are more important. Other peoples opinions of us are more important than our own. Other peoples point of view are more valuable than our own. And for some reason, we eat it up.
Maybe it was childhood when our parents told us that if we listened to them that somehow we would go to heaven and live longer. Or it could have been the teachers that told each and everyone of us that if we gave the correct answer that they thought was good, we could get good grades and somehow be at the top of the class and rise to success. Or it could have been our preachers that said that if we wanted to have prosperity and peace, that we must listen to them and give all of our money over in order to live a great life.
Or maybe it was those skinny bitches that rejected us everytime we logged into Adam4Adam or Men4Now that said that we were somehow not worthy of love or thier attention. These messages were repeated daily to the point where we didn't realize that we were now doing anything and everything to get someone who we thought was valueable to value us.
I know i am telling the truth so you don't have to say amen. I will say it myself. We bought a whole bunch of shit to be cool. We sucked a whole lot of strange dick in order to be loved and put up with a ton of bullshit from folks who weren't worth the pumps of dick to get them here. Only to find out that we couldn't do enough, have enough or be enough to enough people in order to find one person that would love us and want us around.
Well i for one have declared my freedom from needing the approval of anyone. We have to understand that those messages have been programmed into us. And the first step to freedom is to recognize the signs that you are seeking approval. For those that do not know, I will list some very common behaviors:
* You change your position when you find out someone doesn't share the same
* You do extra work just to be recognized at work knowing it won't add a dime to your paycheck
* You allow people to say things that you wouldn't otherwise tolerate because you think they have power over you
* You stay in relationships where you are not being honored or treated because you think that you can't find anyone else that can hit your sweet spot
* Feeling pissed off when someone disagrees with you
* Agreeing with anyone and everyone to keep them around
* Eating food at a restaurant that is not prepared the way you like it because you don't want to upset the waiter
These are just some of the approval seeking behavior that has been implanted in us but I will give you some information that will help you to get rid of this error zone that keeps KINGZ from taking their Kingdom back.
So look for another article and an Offer for our latest Audio Book, " You don't need their Approval ." for a donation of any size to www.KingSizeBrothaz.net
Maybe it was childhood when our parents told us that if we listened to them that somehow we would go to heaven and live longer. Or it could have been the teachers that told each and everyone of us that if we gave the correct answer that they thought was good, we could get good grades and somehow be at the top of the class and rise to success. Or it could have been our preachers that said that if we wanted to have prosperity and peace, that we must listen to them and give all of our money over in order to live a great life.
Or maybe it was those skinny bitches that rejected us everytime we logged into Adam4Adam or Men4Now that said that we were somehow not worthy of love or thier attention. These messages were repeated daily to the point where we didn't realize that we were now doing anything and everything to get someone who we thought was valueable to value us.
I know i am telling the truth so you don't have to say amen. I will say it myself. We bought a whole bunch of shit to be cool. We sucked a whole lot of strange dick in order to be loved and put up with a ton of bullshit from folks who weren't worth the pumps of dick to get them here. Only to find out that we couldn't do enough, have enough or be enough to enough people in order to find one person that would love us and want us around.
Well i for one have declared my freedom from needing the approval of anyone. We have to understand that those messages have been programmed into us. And the first step to freedom is to recognize the signs that you are seeking approval. For those that do not know, I will list some very common behaviors:
* You change your position when you find out someone doesn't share the same
* You do extra work just to be recognized at work knowing it won't add a dime to your paycheck
* You allow people to say things that you wouldn't otherwise tolerate because you think they have power over you
* You stay in relationships where you are not being honored or treated because you think that you can't find anyone else that can hit your sweet spot
* Feeling pissed off when someone disagrees with you
* Agreeing with anyone and everyone to keep them around
* Eating food at a restaurant that is not prepared the way you like it because you don't want to upset the waiter
These are just some of the approval seeking behavior that has been implanted in us but I will give you some information that will help you to get rid of this error zone that keeps KINGZ from taking their Kingdom back.
So look for another article and an Offer for our latest Audio Book, " You don't need their Approval ." for a donation of any size to www.KingSizeBrothaz.net
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